Compassion. Something that many of us are able to show to others but yet find it so difficult to show to ourselves. A person who demonstrates kindness and a willingness to help someone is someone who shows compassion. Being compassionate to someone can bring about so much positivity. So why is it that we find it so hard to be compassionate to ourselves?
I am fortunate enough to have so many compassionate people in my life. The warm, fuzzy feeling you get when someone says to you, “I am there for you no matter what”, cannot be rivalled. I count my lucky stars every day that I have such amazing friends who will say this and I know that they genuinely mean it. This level of compassion can turn the most negative situations into ones that are bearable and sometimes even positive. But knowing all this, I still ask myself, why is it so hard to be compassionate to ourselves?
“Treat others how you wish to be treated”. This is about more than just being kind to someone. We should speak to people how we would want them to speak to us and we should feel about others how we would want them to feel about us. Growing up, I know my family instilled the value of compassion in me and taught me the importance of it. Last year, when my Grandad was ageing, becoming frail and losing his independence, I spent a lot of time with him. I cooked him dinners, sat with him for hours watching the cricket and just listening to the stories of his childhood. One day, my Uncle turned to me and said, “Georgia, have you ever considered a career change to nursing?” He picked up on the level of compassion I was showing for him. Although he sadly passed away at the end of 2019, I know that the love I showed for him at that time would have made a huge difference to him. So again, I ask myself, why is it so easy to show this level of compassion to friends and family, but so hard to show it to ourselves?
Perhaps we don’t see the importance of it. Perhaps we hold ourselves to the highest standards. Or perhaps we simply forget to look after ourselves. Whatever it is, we must remember that without looking out for ourselves we cannot effectively look out for anyone else. We must be kind to ourselves. We must be as caring to ourselves as we are to others. If we can be as compassionate to ourselves as we are to others it can help us reduce any self-limiting thoughts. We have the ability to have a positive impact on not only our friends and families but also our own lives.